RUDE AWAKENING!!!

[suvettez400]

I need to share a little story with you guys. Has nothing to do with the Fury directly but I've been here long enough to feel like you guys are family so I will share. The pic below shows my fiance and myself. Well after 4 years of being together she up and left me a few weeks ago. Not only was I in complete shock but I was emotionally destroyed. The reason? Not because either of us cheated. Not because either of us fell out of love. But because she has felt under-appreciated and she couldnt do it any longer. At first I thought she had no idea what she was talking about but as days went by I realized she was absolutely right. All attempts to contact her went unanswered. Once she had gone I realized nothing else really matters to me. Well a few days ago I walked to her parents house (about 16 miles) not because I couldnt drive but because I wanted to show her shes more to me than just driving there and honestly it would be harder for her to ask me to leave. After about 4 1/2 hours of walking I got to her and... yea she wasnt home. Awesome. As I turn around to walk back she comes down the street. 2 hours of talking later we got in her car and went home.



Moral of the story is, Guys, the lady in your life should be the best and most important thing that has ever happened to you. Don't do what I did and take it for granted. Show that special lady just how much she means to you. Flowers at work - that wears thin, vermont teddy bears - how many does she need. Thought needs to come from the heart. Yesterday morning I had to leave early for work. On my way out I took a single rose I bought the night before and put it under her windshield wiper. I took an erasable marker and wrote "I Love You" inside of a heart right above it and left a napkin for her to wipe it off.

So lets stick together here Guys. What kind of things do you do for your special lady to keep her smiling (pg-13 Please )

[ericegg01]

"Don't know what you got until it's gone"

I think the big thing is... Pay attention to them and often...lol


To keep her happy I usually just unzip... then I get the look, zip up... and take the garbage out...

[StPeteAPB]

I'm VERY glad this had a happy ending ...

I couldn't agree more with what you said. When you find "the one", make sure you both ensure each other knows their extreme value in your life.

My niece recently got married and I wrote a personal note to them, which I hope brings even more clarity:

Some people wait a very, very long time to find "the one" ... the absolute match to their two-piece puzzle. Some people try and try, but only can force their "puzzle pieces" to fit, leaving gaps that are NOT meant to be there. And, some people never find the matching piece to their lives - spending their whole existence on this vast blue marble all alone.

I can only try to express how happy I am for you that you both found each other and you did so earlier on in life than so many others.

Your lives should revolve around one another and your priorities should be one another. Follow that guideline and you have the icing ... the rest is, then, cake.

Wishing you both happiness together forever and a day.

I bid you and every other happy couple the same thoughts and wishes.

BTW, to make my girl happy ... I pay attention!
That means listening to her when she talks and recognizing things w/o being told (e.g. new shoes, a new dress/shirt, a new hair cut, different nail color, etc.)

[woodenhorse]

Find the right match to begin with. We all want different things and expect different things. Roses and notes and such are nice at first, but there has to be the inner match. Relationships don't work in the long run if either partner is more selfish than the other......my two cents.

[460brevill]

100% right bob.i guess my wife and i are a pair that beat a full house.45 years and counting.i think i love her more now than i ever did.

[husker1]

My wife and I have been married over 30 years, and I can honestly say I have never taken her or our relationship for granted. I think part of it was I was married before and saw the ugly side and learned . When I met my wife I in no way wanted a relationship, but she presisted and I realized she was it. So the advice I give when asked is you have to maintain the passion and excitement you had in the beginning, never lose that. Listen to each other and be prepared to compromise. She told me a long time ago not to try to fix all her problems, sometimes just listen (that was a hard one as I try to fix everything).

[StPeteAPB]

Originally Posted by husker1

She told me a long time ago not to try to fix all her problems, sometimes just listen (that was a hard one as I try to fix everything).

Great advice. We all want to fix the problem for our ladies, but it's true they don't always want US to fix the problem, they just want us to listen.

[EvoMotors]

You never know... My friends wife left my friend after 4 years of marriage because she felt like she is getting too much attention and has no space. Go figure...

[Exredninjaguy]

I'm glad you guys are getting a chance to fix things. I want to point out though, that that "appreciation thing" goes both ways.

[woodenhorse]

Originally Posted by Exredninjaguy

I'm glad you guys are getting a chance to fix things. I want to point out though, that that "appreciation thing" goes both ways.

Yeah, I was trying to allude to that!